Oh, modern dating. How much we love and hate you at the same time. Just like with pretty much anything, there are good things and bad things when it comes to modern dating. Does the good outweigh the bad in this situation or is it the other way around? One may never know. What you can be sure of is that it is incredibly subjective. The opinions are going to change from person to person just like many other hot topics. Some people are going to prefer the old fashioned form of dating and others are going prefer the direction that modern dating it taking now. As a single female in my 20’s, I’m here to give you my opinion on what I like and dislike about dating as we know it today.
Let’s rip off the Band-Aid on what I can’t change and go over what I would rather not be the way of dating these days. To start off, I don’t like how little effort seems to be shown in modern dating. Since modern dating has migrated to practically online dating, it requires little to no effort to find someone. Most times all it takes is a click or swipe to get the ball rolling. Since the actual act of selecting someone you find attractive is all it takes, that level of laziness seems to be apparent throughout. There really is no such thing as courting anymore and if there is, it is minimal. Secondly, it doesn’t seem quite as intimate especially when it comes to emotional intimacy. Because more often that not you are communicating behind a screen, it’s not required to dig below the superficial. One of the major issues I have with modern dating is the lack of accountability. There are so many blurred lines because we are more hesitant to make things official (see above where I talk about laziness), it doesn’t seem wrong to be talking to multiple people. You don’t have to actually see this person face-to-face, in an online dating stand point, so things like talking or flirting with someone else is almost expected because there is a lack of accountability.
Let’s get on to the good part. Modern dating has some really good attributes though that too many people shrug off. Firstly, the act of actually dating online is so much more relaxed. You are able to communicate via text or online which means you can do it while going about your day. You no longer have to set aside a time to meet up with the person and discuss everything you are wanting to know. Eventually, you’re going have to meet them, but the timeline is a lot less forced and you’re able to take your time to get to know the other person before meeting face-to-face. You also get to ask the questions you’re wanting to know without having to risk the embarrassment to their face. It is extremely convenient when trying to get to know someone. It’s nice to not have to worry about certain, more traditional ways of dating because most people these days are the furthest from traditional.
No matter if you prefer modern dating to old fashioned dating there is always going to be truth in that dating is always going be evolving. It would be in your best interest to learn the modern way of dating as it comes. After all, once you find the right person, there is a good chance you won’t have to do it again. Remember – Swipe left. Swipe right. Go get ‘em tiger.
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